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Why We Need to Talk About Male Betrayal Trauma
In this groundbreaking first episode, Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, The Betrayal Shrink, opens the door to an often-ignored conversation—what it’s like to be a man who’s been cheated on. With raw honesty and clinical insight, Adam shares his personal story of betrayal and explains why partner infidelity hits men differently. This episode dismantles the myth that men don’t feel deeply or don’t suffer from emotional trauma. It’s not about blame—it’s about truth, healing, and breaking the silence. If you’ve been carrying your pain alone, this is where your recovery begins.
The Moment You Found Out
You never forget the moment you discover your partner’s betrayal. It’s called D-Day for a reason—because it feels like everything explodes. In this powerful episode, Adam walks you through what happens in the first few hours and days after partner betrayal. From shock and trauma responses to the overwhelming urge to get answers, he provides guidance on how to survive the emotional earthquake without making life-altering decisions you might regret. If you’re still in the fog, this episode will ground you with clarity, compassion, and next steps.
You’re Not Crazy—You’re Traumatized
Think you’re losing your mind after betrayal? You’re not. You’re dealing with trauma. In this episode, Adam breaks down how betrayal trauma hijacks your nervous system, distorts your thoughts, and overwhelms your emotions. From PTSD symptoms to racing thoughts, numbness, and hypervigilance, this episode gives you language for what you’re experiencing—and reminds you that your pain is valid. You’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re in survival mode. And it’s time to start healing from the inside out.
The Male Ego and Betrayal
When partner betrayal hits, it doesn’t just break your heart—it crushes your ego. This episode explores how infidelity shatters a man’s self-image, confidence, and sense of identity. Adam challenges outdated beliefs around strength, masculinity, and asking for help, and shows you how ego defenses like numbing, overcompensating, or trying to "win your partner back" can keep you stuck. Learn how to work with—not against—your ego and begin rebuilding a healthy sense of masculine self-worth rooted in truth, vulnerability, and self-respect.
Stop Pretending You’re Fine
You’re showing up to work. You’re laughing with friends. But inside, you’re barely holding it together. Sound familiar? This episode dives into the emotional cost of pretending to be okay after partner betrayal. Adam reveals how emotional suppression becomes a survival strategy—and why it ultimately sabotages your healing. If you’ve been masking your pain, denying your grief, or powering through because you think that’s what strength looks like, this episode will help you step into a more honest, sustainable recovery.
Why Men Don’t Talk About Being Cheated On
Men get cheated on too—but most don’t talk about it. In this episode, Adam explores the deep-rooted cultural silence around male emotional pain and how that silence leads to shame, isolation, and unresolved trauma. From childhood conditioning to societal expectations of masculinity, this episode examines the real reasons men stay quiet—and the real cost of that silence. Adam invites you to break the cycle and claim your voice, not just for yourself, but for every man who needs to know he’s not alone.
Masculinity, Betrayal, and the Male Identity Crisis
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just feel like rejection—it feels like a failure of manhood. This episode takes you deep into the identity collapse many men experience after partner betrayal. Adam unpacks how traditional definitions of masculinity—protector, provider, leader—get shaken to the core, leaving many men questioning who they are. But within that collapse is an opportunity: to redefine what it means to be a man, to build a new identity based on emotional honesty, grounded self-respect, and authentic masculine power.
The First 90 Days After Partner Betrayal
The first three months after discovering infidelity can feel like hell. This episode is your survival guide for the chaos, confusion, and emotional freefall that follow betrayal. Adam outlines what to expect—panic, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts—and what not to do in those early days. From setting boundaries and finding real support to avoiding toxic forums and knee-jerk decisions, this episode is packed with actionable guidance. If you’re in the early storm of partner betrayal, this will help you breathe, stabilize, and stay grounded.
What is Masculine Betrayal Trauma?
Most men don’t even know what they’re experiencing has a name. In this episode, Adam introduces the concept of Masculine Betrayal Trauma (MBT)—a unique form of trauma that affects men deeply when they are betrayed by their partner. Learn how MBT differs from other forms of trauma, why it gets misdiagnosed, and how it can impact everything from your identity and emotions to your work performance and parenting. This episode lays the foundation for understanding and healing your betrayal experience through the MBT Recovery™ model.
What Betrayal Feels Like in a Man’s Body
This episode gets personal and physical—literally. Partner betrayal doesn’t just mess with your mind—it lodges in your nervous system. Adam breaks down how trauma shows up in your body: sleeplessness, chest tightness, gut issues, rage, numbness, and more. If you’ve felt like your body is in chaos or shutting down, this episode will help you understand why. Learn how to reconnect with your body, use grounding tools, and begin releasing the trauma that’s been locked in your system since the moment everything broke apart.
How Betrayal Impacts Your Self-Worth
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just break your heart, it breaks the mirror you see yourself through. In this raw and powerful episode, Adam dives deep into the identity collapse and loss of self-worth that men experience after betrayal. You might find yourself asking, Was I not enough? or Was I just disposable?, but these questions are born from trauma, not truth.
You’re Not Weak for Wanting Your Partner Back
In this episode, Adam unpacks the emotional chaos that follows betrayal, the trauma bond, the fear of being alone, the ambivalence, the craving for what once was. With clarity and compassion, Adam helps you distinguish between true love and attachment driven by fear or routine. He explains why wanting your partner back doesn’t make you pathetic, and why acting on that impulse without doing the deeper work can lead to even more pain.
You’re Not Weak for Wanting Your Partner Back
What do you do when your mind won’t stop spinning about them, the person your partner cheated with? In this episode, Adam dives into the torment of obsessive thoughts about “the other person.” Whether you’re comparing yourself, fantasizing about revenge, or trying to understand why it happened, these mental loops only deepen the wound. This episode will help you take back control of your focus, shift from obsession to healing, and reclaim your emotional power. Because healing doesn’t come from knowing everything about them, it comes from returning to you.
The Power of Brotherhood in Healing
What do you do when your mind won’t stop spinning about them, the person your partner cheated with? In this episode, Adam dives into the torment of obsessive thoughts about “the other person.” Whether you’re comparing yourself, fantasizing about revenge, or trying to understand why it happened, these mental loops only deepen the wound. This episode will help you take back control of your focus, shift from obsession to healing, and reclaim your emotional power. Because healing doesn’t come from knowing everything about them, it comes from returning to you.
When You’re Still Sleeping in the Same Bed
What happens when the person who betrayed you still shares your bed? In this raw and honest episode, Adam tackles the emotional toll of sleeping next to the partner who shattered your trust. From feeling unsafe in your own body to navigating the pressure of pretending everything’s fine, this episode gives language to one of the most disorienting experiences post-betrayal. You’ll learn why space is not punishment, its protection, and why you’re allowed to reclaim your peace, your sleep, and your boundaries. If you’ve been silently suffering in the same bed, this is your permission to choose healing over performance.
Why Gaslighting Hurts So Deeply
Gaslighting is more than lying, it’s emotional abuse that distorts your sense of reality. In this powerful episode, Adam breaks down what gaslighting looks like in betrayal situations and why it’s so damaging. If you’ve ever been made to feel like you’re the crazy one, or questioned your own instincts and memories, this episode will help you name what happened. You’ll learn how to rebuild your confidence, trust your gut again, and stop waiting for validation from the person who lied. This is your: you’re not crazy. You were being manipulated, and now, it’s time to get your clarity back.
Masculinity, Betrayal, and the Male Identity Crisis
Why Men Don’t Talk About Being Cheated On
You’re Not Crazy, You’re Traumatized: Understanding the Impact of Betrayal on Men
The Moment You Found Out: What Happens to a Man When Betrayal Hits
Why We Need to Talk About Male Betrayal Trauma
